Arguments...

Well, Day One is done and day two is commencing as I type. I'd say that the first love dare was fairly easy. Don't say anything negative to your significant other... Hmmmm.... OK. I didnt have to practice this too greatly as I like to humbly pride myself on being a pretty sweet person who doesnt say mean things on the regular (key word people). However, I will say, it is easy sometimes to take out those frustrations you might feel at work or from other stresses in your life out on the people you love the most. Unfortunately that only leaves my two sweet kiddos and my main squeeze. 

Have I told you that I'm a teacher yet? I teach 2nd grade and I absolutely love and adore my students but sometimes, I want to put them in the Chokey and forget I ever saw them...And then there is the matter with the politics at school... Damn, if teaching was solely based on reaching the kids and making them the best they could possibly be, I'd have the best job in the world. But as you have it, teaching is also about the behind the scenes things most people know nothing about. How we conduct ourselves as teachers on an everyday basis is scrutinized with a fine toothed comb. I have had the worst acne of my life from teaching and episodes of explosive diarrhea due to the stress. Add a principal on top of it who hates you...and you have the makings of a perfect situation where I get to lash out irrationally at my loving boyfriend. 

I dont actually get to see my hunky man until later this evening, so I have all day to plan my next move, harness my chi and center all my awesomeness to breathing deeply and preventing myself from saying something snarky after a "joke" from my guy. What is it about guys and their "hilarrrrrrrrrrious" jokes that pretty much put cha down? My guy is a master of these. I think he honestly stops time, spends 45 minutes on the best, witty one liner or jab, starts time again and hits ya right between the eyes before you even know what is coming. Its unreal how fast he is and how funny most of the time he can be. However, I seem to be the center of most of his jokes....all of the time. I admit, I'm kindof an easy target.... Im ridiculously adorable. He can't compete with my master chopstick level and I feel bad that he doesnt fart in his sleep as much as I seem too. Hey, I'm relaxed and comfortable and most of the times I dont even realize I do it. It's an art.

Just this morning, I had to practice my Love Dare mantra.... "I will not punch him in his face! I will love him like I'm supposed to... I will not get upset and argue with him.....I will not allow myself to get upset this day... Gooooooooose-Fra-Bahhhhh"

I am dating a man who knows exactly what buttons to push to piss me right the fuck off! I might be a chopstick handling master, but he is a button pushing mother fucker and he does it with so much pizzazz and gusto, you'd think he spent centuries training for the day he could use his skills on me. He's the Kill Bill of Samurai button pushing. Just this morning, I literally had to turn around so he wouldnt see the devil dancing in my eyes as he's trying to argue with me about something that happened two fucking days ago! Oh Love Dare, I need you!! Help me to learn to be a better girlfriend, who does not become a push over but lets the little dumb shit go.

Day 2: Love is kind Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. —Ephesians 4:32
 TODAY’S DARE In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse again today, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness. 

Oh fuck! Ok....So I have to hold my tongue again, even when my lover says something stupid (he's a guy, its a constant), makes a rude comment or tries to start an argument... NOT that this is a normal occurrence with my guy, but since starting this dare (ahem, yesterday) I've noticed that the more I'm NOT supposed to say something, the more I notice I really reeally rreeeeeallalalalalalallly want to! So...what unexpected gesture as an act of kindness should I do for my Love Nugget? Hmmm....I need to think of something that is out of the ordinary. I know!!! His back has been hurting him a lot lately so I am going to massage him with oil. Maybe I'll even grab some seran wrap and.... wait, wha? Massage to sooth my mans aches and pains from a long day of manual labor. I can do this!